How to try again after failing to make contact with Spirit
Learning to try again after failing to make contact with loved ones on the other side is probably one of the biggest hurdles we’ll face in the experience of life after loss.
I remember years ago I asked for a hawk feather from my brother as a sign that he was with me. When I immediately walked outside and couldn’t find any kind of feather anywhere – not even a little fluff from my jacket or anything – I was devastated.
On one hand, you know that it takes time to receive signs from loved ones on the other side. On the other hand, you just want what you want right now, especially when you’re having an especially hard day.
Asking for a sign or message from a loved one on the other side is such a vulnerable thing, and you can feel really over-exposed. So then when you’ve done the brave thing and you don’t get the result you wanted, how do you pick yourself up and try again?
How soon should you try again?
Practices to help you bounce back more quickly and try again after failing to connect
But what if you’re truly stuck and not wanting to try again after failing?
It’s counterintuitive, but the confidence comes after you start taking action, rather than before. So it’s critical to keep moving forward even if you don’t feel fully confident yet, but that can be hard! For me, I kept going for walks, thinking that was the only way I’d find a hawk feather (makes sense that they’d be outside, right?)
With spiritual connection though, the timing is not always up to you. Remember that you can protect and care for yourself no matter what comes. If you’ve journalled, read some motivating books, listened to some inspirational podcasts and are still in complete paralysis mode, that’s when a coach, therapist or other supportive professional can help nudge you forward with more hands-on tools, resources and insights. Sometimes you just need someone in your corner who can see your blind spots.
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Take care of yourself always, and remember that you’re not a failure, you’re having an experience of failure that only lasts a moment. And each moment is an opportunity for something new to come.